One of the dangers in the Patriarchal mindset and bubble in which we all find ourselves is that it sentimentalizes violence at the same time that it renders many men gutless, afraid, cowardly, liars and narcissistic.
The common good gets ignored along with the call to care about values and to fine tune one’s values and test them against wise thinkers and doers of the past.
We must ask the question: Does Patriarchy make cowards of men like Speaker-in-waiting McCarthy and others? People afraid to address death threats in their workplace; climate change; an unjust economic system; dismantling of the right to vote; teaching about racism and its history in schools; women’s rights and much more are cowards.
Such gutless and unmasculine men invest all their ‘power’ to the use of the uber-powerful and the pseudo powerful weak men. No manliness there. No healthy masculine. No model of masculinity for the younger generation. Little wonder that many young men are confused and bewildered today. Consider Kyle Rittenhouse.
Such men cover up their cowardice with projections onto autocrats and autocrat wannabes. They become Yes men to men committed to power-over dynamics and are themselves of small hearts and minds and committed to one thing: Power for power’s sake.
Such “strong men” are in fact weak men who lack that inner power called virtue that cares for truth and justice and supporting the less fortunate. For compassion therefore.
Virtue, inner strength, is authentic virility. Such men lack it.
While we witness the devastation of the covid virus wrecking its havoc around the world, there is another virus, that of a toxic masculinity, that is also spreading. It is taking place in American politics and is spread by a sick and enabling media and social media. Also so often wrapped in toxic masculinity.
See Matthew Fox, The Hidden Spirituality of Men: Ten Metaphors to Awaken the Sacred Masculine.
To read the transcript for Matthew Fox’s video teaching, click HERE.
Banner Image: March to Stop Trans Mountain Oil Pipeline at the Kwekwexnewtxw Watch House and the Kinder Morgan Tank Farm in Burnaby, British Columbia, Canada, August 25, 2018. Photo by Sally T. Buck on Flickr.
Queries for Contemplation
Do you recognize that virtue and virility are closely related? What follows from that?
The Hidden Spirituality of Men: Ten Metaphors to Awaken the Sacred Masculine
To awaken what Fox calls “the sacred masculine,” he unearths ten metaphors, or archetypes, ranging from the Green Man, an ancient pagan symbol of our fundamental relationship with nature, to the Spiritual Warrior….These timeless archetypes can inspire men to pursue their higher calling to connect to their deepest selves and to reinvent the world.
“Every man on this planet should read this book — not to mention every woman who wants to understand the struggles, often unconscious, that shape the men they know.” — Rabbi Michael Lerner, author of The Left Hand of God