The first letter I received when my book on The Hidden Spirituality of Men: Ten Metaphors to Awaken the Sacred Masculine came out fifteen years ago, was from a woman who told me that she was a feminist and in her home library she had over 200 books on the divine feminine and not one on the sacred masculine. And she had two teen-age boys.
And that until she read my book she had not known how much men have suffered under patriarchy. And that she did not regret for one second the last 25 years of her life that she had spent in recovering the divine feminine in her life but that I was right—the next stage of feminism must be helping in the clean-up of the toxic masculine.
A second and very moving response I received about my book came at a conference on Earth and Spirit held in a large hotel in Santa Fe. After I spoke and took questions about my men’s book, a very tall and smartly dressed Native American man approached me.
He had long white hair, was dressed very elegantly in black, came up to me and said this. “I have been working as a prison chaplain for over 12 years. It is very difficult to get men in prison to look at themselves—they are always projecting onto others. Yours is the first book I have ever used that got them to look and find the nobility inside.”
How moved I was at that moment—and still am—by this testimony and the language this Native American elder shared with me: The nobility inside.
Is that what is wounding men and boys and rendering them violent to themselves and others? Is that what is missing? Men (and women too) are out of touch with the nobility we carry inside us?
To be continued
Matthew Fox, Confessions: The Making of a Post-denominational Priest, pp. 417-420.
See also: Matthew Fox, The Hidden Spirituality of Men: Ten Metaphors to Awaken the Sacred Masculine.
Banner image: “A Council of Elders by Ludwig Deutsch.” Wikimedia Commons – Public Domain.
Queries for Contemplation
How did you learn, man or woman, about the nobility inside? How do you keep that knowledge alive?
Confessions: The Making of a Post-Denominational Priest (Revised/Updated Edition)
Matthew Fox’s stirring autobiography, Confessions, reveals his personal, intellectual, and spiritual journey from altar boy, to Dominican priest, to his eventual break with the Vatican. Five new chapters in this revised and updated edition bring added perspective in light of the author’s continued journey, and his reflections on the current changes taking place in church, society and the environment.
“The unfolding story of this irrepressible spiritual revolutionary enlivens the mind and emboldens the heart — must reading for anyone interested in courage, creativity, and the future of religion.”
—Joanna Macy, author of World as Lover, World as Self
The Hidden Spirituality of Men: Ten Metaphors to Awaken the Sacred Masculine
To awaken what Fox calls “the sacred masculine,” he unearths ten metaphors, or archetypes, ranging from the Green Man, an ancient pagan symbol of our fundamental relationship with nature, to the Spiritual Warrior….These timeless archetypes can inspire men to pursue their higher calling to connect to their deepest selves and to reinvent the world.
“Every man on this planet should read this book — not to mention every woman who wants to understand the struggles, often unconscious, that shape the men they know.” — Rabbi Michael Lerner, author of The Left Hand of God