[FROM THE ARCHIVE: NOVEMBER 7, 2020]
Continuing our reflections on the young, I offer this DM about creating rituals together. Many young people can be met and healed in deep ways by learning to create rituals that serve their needs. Not only the Cosmic Mass has revealed this to me over the past 26 years, but also stories such as the one that follows.
We have been exploring for several months the primal question: What does it mean to be human? We have sought answers by meditating on the “10 C’s” and we are now meditating on the last of the “C’s,” Ceremony or celebration or ritual.
Authentic ceremonies recharge us, heal us, energize us, amaze us. They release our best capacities for compassion and service, for learning and teaching. They demarcate and honor beginnings and endings. They re-member and re-connect with the ancestors, ushering them among us. They awaken us.
It is through ceremony that the biggest stories, such as those of the universe itself or of our great ancestors, are most effectively carried on. Ceremony is part and parcel of the post-modern awareness, not least of all because it is so integral to pre-modern consciousness.
Adam Bucko and his co-worker Taz Tagor created a ritual for the young adults whom they worked closely with in the Reciprocity Foundation dedicated to youth living on the streets of New York City.
Adam and Taz took the youth to a Buddhist retreat center located on land outside the city. Giving them a day to acclimate to the new setting, so different from a noisy, bustling city, they then focused on the work of forgiveness.
The goal, says Adam, was to teach youth how to cultivate compassion for their perpetrators and to step out of victimhood and into a more empowering mind.
The youth engaged in many simple rituals to initiate themselves into the retreat—such as finding objects in nature that represented the people they wished to forgive—even if they didn’t believe that forgiveness was possible.
Two days were spent reflecting, journaling and discussing how and why we need to forgive each other. Then all gathered at the lake and each youth was invited to step into the water—and to release the objects representing people they were ready to forgive and to describe how it felt to let go of their pain and anger. And also how their suffering had helped them to grow. We felt they needed a ritual to remember that pain wakes us up and reminds us of the ways in which we need to grow as human beings.
The ritual moved Adam:
I was in awe as I watched each youth step into the lake and offer their forgiveness to people who had committed atrocious acts of violence upon their bodies and spirits. Their capacity for forgiveness was astounding—and they seemed to grasp the ways in which their suffering was also a blessing in their lives.
It was important that the youth not only participate in doing the ritual but in creating it; and that it was bodily; and in tune with the outdoor setting in nature. Such practices are a powerful way to open the gateway for transformative experience. It is this kind of post-religious but deeply spiritual work that resonate with young people.
Adapted from Matthew Fox, The A.W.E. Project: Reinventing Education, Reinventing the Human, pp. 137f.
Also see Adam Bucko and Matthew Fox, Occupy Spirituality: A Radical Vision for a New Generation, pp. 137f.
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Queries for Contemplation
What elements of the ritual described here moves you to consider creating similar rituals? Do these stories and teachings on ritual underscore the gift that ceremony or ritual brings to the greater community? Have you seen young people awakened and healed and energized by ritual?
Recommended Reading
The A.W.E. Project: Reinventing Education, Reinventing the Human
The A.W.E. Project reminds us that awe is the appropriate response to the unfathomable wonder that is creation… A.W.E. is also the acronym for Fox’s proposed style of learning – an approach to balance the three R’s. This approach to learning, eldering, and mentoring is intelligent enough to honor the teachings of the Ancestors, to nurture Wisdom in addition to imparting knowledge, and to Educate through Fox’s 10 C’s. The 10 C’s are the core of the A.W.E. philosophy and process of education, and include: compassion, contemplation, and creativity. The A.W.E. Project does for the vast subject of “learning” what Fox’s Reinvention of Work did for vocation and Original Blessing did for theology. Included in the book is a dvd of the 10 C’s put to 10 video raps created and performed by Professor Pitt.
“An awe-based vision of educational renewal.” — Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat, Spirituality and Practice.
Occupy Spirituality: A Radical Vision for a New Generation
Authors Adam Bucko and Matthew Fox encourage us to use our talents in service of compassion and justice and to move beyond our broken systems–economic, political, educational, and religious–discovering a spirituality that not only helps us to get along, but also encourages us to reevaluate our traditions, transforming them and in the process building a more sacred and just world. Incorporating the words of young activist leaders culled from interviews and surveys, the book provides a framework that is deliberately interfaith and speaks to our profound yearning for a life with spiritual purpose and for a better world.
“Occupy Spirituality is a powerful, inspiring, and vital call to embodied awareness and enlightened actions.”
~~ Julia Butterfly Hill, environmental activist and author of The Legacy of Luna: The Story of a Tree, a Woman, and the Struggle to Save the Redwoods
3 thoughts on “Creating Ceremony for Ritual among Homeless Youth”
The spiritual work by the Reciprocity Foundation and the Buddhist Retreat Center (Dharma Drum) in New York covered in today’s DM video from Nov. 7, 2020 is beautiful and I’m sure they’re continuing their spiritually healing work among the youth. It’s a great model for what’s needed in cities around the world for people of all ages — spiritual retreat centers out in nature with healing rituals including meditative/contemplative prayers. Hopefully, these spiritual retreat centers out in nature will continue growing to contribute to the personal and communal spiritual healing of the world… It reminds me of the spiritual wisdom and communal traditions/rituals of Indigenous cultures with their Oneness with beautiful Sacred Mother Nature and the Cosmos which modern Western society has mostly lost and continues to destroy…
I have attended many retreats that used ceremonies and rituals. It’s very healing and I would like suggestions on how I could share with my 6 young adult grandchildren. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I believe my grandchildren would be open . Who else is better to teach them but me. Blessings and sincere love to this community.
Another ritual I think is very helpful is walking a labyrinth, when reaching the centre one can pause ,or sit and shed weakness, ailments etc or receive strength and slowly return out in peace.
Mary Frost
RSA